As I near sixty, maintaining fitness and health is important. And as my daughter nears 16, developing a fitness and health habit will serve her well. So we both regularly ride our bikes around a lake nearby, the total journey being about 10 kilometres.
There is one point at which the path diverges, the path to the right taking a more meandering journey closer to the lake’s edge, whilst the one straight ahead melds through a grove of beautiful ghost gums. I always take the path to the right because I think that path is the longer route. Whilst my daughter believes the one straight ahead is the longest.
On Sunday we went riding and as usual, she was ahead of me. As she hit the ‘fork’ I wondered what she would do knowing that I prefer us to the take the path to the right. She sailed straight on. My immediate thought was, “Rascal, she knows the path to the right is longer, she is so lazy!” And then this thought entered my mind. ‘No she’s not, she simply believes that the path to the left is equally as long and is living out of that belief .’ Bam! I could see what I was being shown. She was innocently living out what she believed to be true, no extraneous thinking in there at all. (Thank goodness she was doing that and not getting caught up in anxious thinking about what I believed!)
I saw the truth of what I heard. There was no malice in her taking her path, just alignment with her thinking. If there was anything other than that, I would have seen a different behaviour from her. Instead I saw a healthy young woman on a bike, her long tanned muscular legs effortlessly pedal her away as she enjoyed her surroundings. She was living in the flow of her beliefs – as I am when I take the path to the right.
We are all doing this. Living out the thinking we believe to be true. We are all unconsciously living out our thinking. We only wake out of that dream when the thinking we are living from doesn’t serve us. Who knows whether our beliefs are true. What is true, is that our beliefs enable us to navigate life effortlessly … until they no long do.
On the one hand it can be helpful to see that we are all living out of a set of made up beliefs. The deeper ‘gem’ in this anecdote however was the moment when a fresh thought came to me about what was really going on when my daughter stayed true to her ‘path’. Hold our thinking about others (and life) lightly and we maintain a connection to a deeper source of thought that in the moment supports us to transcend our beliefs and avoid some of the problems that occur when we hold tightly on to them. At the core of all conflict is at least one belief that we assume to be true and a disregard for the wisdom that surfaces to save us – because I know it does.
Decades ago, when I was first exposed to the inside out understanding of how we create our experiences, my very first ‘different’ way of thinking about things was to see my thinking as ticker tape crossing my mind. I was doing the dishes at my kitchen sink and could see my thinking moving across my mind as ticket tape. It was the first time I could see my thinking separated from ‘me’.