The Fork in the Road

As I near sixty, maintaining fitness and health is important. And as my daughter nears 16, developing a fitness and health habit will serve her well. So we both regularly ride our bikes around a lake nearby, the total journey being about 10 kilometres.

IMG_0680There is one point at which the path diverges, the path to the right taking a more meandering journey closer to the lake’s edge, whilst the one straight ahead melds through a grove of beautiful ghost gums. I always take the path to the right because I think that path is the longer route. Whilst my daughter believes the one straight ahead is the longest.

On Sunday we went riding and as usual, she was ahead of me. As she hit the ‘fork’ I wondered what she would do knowing that I prefer us to the take the path to the right. She sailed straight on. My immediate thought was, “Rascal, she knows the path to the right is longer, she is so lazy!” And then this thought entered my mind. ‘No she’s not, she simply believes that the path to the left is equally as long and is living out of that belief .’ Bam! I could see what I was being shown. She was innocently living out what she believed to be true, no extraneous thinking in there at all. (Thank goodness she was doing that and not getting caught up in anxious thinking about what I believed!)

I saw the truth of what I heard. There was no malice in her taking her path, just alignment with her thinking. If there was anything other than that, I would have seen a different behaviour from her. Instead I saw a healthy young woman on a bike, her long tanned muscular legs effortlessly pedal her away as she enjoyed her surroundings. She was living in the flow of her beliefs – as I am when I take the path to the right.

We are all doing this. Living out the thinking we believe to be true. We are all unconsciously living out our thinking. We only wake out of that dream when the thinking we are living from doesn’t serve us. Who knows whether our beliefs are true. What is true, is that our beliefs enable us to navigate life effortlessly … until they no long do.

On the one hand it can be helpful to see that we are all living out of a set of made up beliefs. The deeper ‘gem’ in this anecdote however was the moment when a fresh thought came to me about what was really going on when my daughter stayed true to her ‘path’. Hold our thinking about others (and life) lightly and we maintain a connection to a deeper source of thought that in the moment supports us to transcend our beliefs and avoid some of the problems that occur when we hold tightly on to them. At the core of all conflict is at least one belief that we assume to be true and a disregard for the wisdom that surfaces to save us  – because I know it does.

Ticker Tape Thinking

IMG_0681 (002)Decades ago, when I was first exposed to the inside out understanding of how we create our experiences, my very first ‘different’ way of thinking about things was to see my thinking as ticker tape crossing my mind. I was doing the dishes at my kitchen sink and could see my thinking moving across my mind as ticket tape. It was the first time I could see my thinking  separated from ‘me’.

Last week I came across a tweet from a person feeling bored with the ongoing recording in their head about themselves as ‘marmite’ and how it had become a habit that was now labelled a mental health issue. The use of the word ‘bored’ reminded me of times when I have felt exhausted and down and retreated to my bedroom to hide, only to have something later shift in my mind, a realization that I was bored with feeling down and to leap out of bed with a fresh, vital energy with which I moved into something different. This has happened several times and I am always left with the question, “How can this be? I was physically exhausted and yet here I am with boundless energy!” The experience points to a deeper truth about the nature of our feelings – they are created from the state of our minds, i.e. the quality of thought moving through them. I love the waking up to being ‘bored’, sooner or later our thinking always, always changes.

As I reflected on that tweet, the ticker tape image came to mind again, only this time it was paper tape that changed colour according to the thoughts we entertain. Imagine the flow of thought through you mind as a pale pink tape. When your mind is in that state, you too, flow lovingly in peace. But when our thinking changes, we experience the result. Start to think angry thoughts (see the red on the tape?), we feel that. Start to think self defeating thoughts (see the dark blue on the tape?), we feel that. The driver of our feelings and moods is the ticker tape of our minds, not our external events. This is where we need to turn our attention when we are not feeling so good.

We think that our changes in mood are created by the events around us. But this is simply the illusion we live in. Two people can view exactly the same circumstance in physical reality and have different experiences. What accounts for the difference? Our differences in perception and changes in mood are created by the quality of thought flowing through our minds. In any moment, we are either thinking from the ‘flow’ or thinking from how we have learned to think – our conditioning. Fresh thoughts and bespoke solutions never surface when the ticker tape of our minds is contaminated with the old habitual thinking we have imposed on it. Fresh thoughts and bespoke solutions can only surface when that ticker tape is at rest and uncontaminated by our personality or conditioning.

When you are feeling discombobulated, instead of focusing on the external events, look to the ticker tape first. See what you are creating with your thoughts, thoughts that like the Tweeter with the ‘marmite’ problem, you too have learned to think. We are all conditioned to think in certain ways, but when we repeatedly live life from our conditioned ways of thinking, they have the potential to become personality traits, habits, addictions, diagnoses and disorders.  Try and see your ticker tape of thinking. See the relationship between your ticker tape of thought and your experience and everything changes. And even when life gets messy, your best chance of elegant navigation is through the use of uncontaminated ticker tape, the only state of mind capable of tapping into limitless possibility. So rest, don’t act, and wait.