Warning Bells

There are many sad hearts in my local area this week.

Mid week, a Year 12 classmate of my daughter was stabbed. Hours later she died. Neighbours reported hearing an argument. In a heated moment, a strong impulse was followed and a life was cut short whilst others were altered forever. The sadness in our community is palpable.

In a classroom, a gentle hearted boy gets caught up in the moment and follows an impulse. He does something stupid and is suspended. The act was not worthy of suspension and neither was the boy. He can explain what happened, he can explain how conditions in that room are difficult for him to navigate, and he can articulate what he needs in his environment to learn. But the adults around him got caught up in their own impulses and no one listened. In that brief moment, another life trajectory was altered.

A mother reacts badly to her children being children. Overextended and exhausted she flies off the handle with rage at the smallest things. She moves her children through their day and when alone she sits crying in the car at the mother she has become. She is frightened at how powerful is the impulse to lash out, she is frightened at her inability to stop it, and she is frightened of what she may do. She knows where that impulse could lead.

These scenarios are but a small slice of the instances this week in which children, adolescents and adults in my small part of the world followed a brief, strong impulse, resulting in sad, despairing, and frightening outcomes. We need to understand that strong impulses ….. strong emotions, are not reliable truth. They are warning bells, not invitations. They are signposts that we are about to step into a train of thought that lacks wisdom. They don’t end well.

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Before Understanding

IMG_0208 (002)Before understanding gravity and its influence on planets and tides, ancient people thought the planets were pushed around by angels and that supernatural forces governed the tides. People’s thinking was out of sync with the natural phenomenon of gravity. And from that thinking, misaligned behaviours followed. Ancient peoples, not understanding the earth’s rotation and movement of the planets, used to light fires on the horizon to attract the sun back each day. They were afraid it wouldn’t return.

However, once Newton articulated the principle of gravity, people’s thinking and behaviour changed. The ‘crazy’ stuff stopped. When how we think and talk about a natural phenomenon aligns with the truth about how it works, our behaviours become less ‘crazy’.

The same is true with the phenomenon of the innate wisdom that flows through every human being. It comes to us via thought and the more our thinking attunes to it, the more easily we recognise it in a feeling of ‘right’. Like the ancients who didn’t understand gravity and got lost in emotions, behaviours and habits that were misaligned with the phenomenon of gravity, so too do human beings get lost in emotions, behaviours and habits that are misaligned with the phenomenon on innate wisdom. In both cases, the erroneous thinking of human beings, before clear understanding, creates bizarre behaviour.

Adolescence is the perfect time to educate about the phenomenon of innate wisdom and the role of thinking in aligning with the principle of innate wisdom or sending us down rabbit holes. In adolescence, thinking capacities expand and our young people become more aware of the dynamics around them. When I work with those young people trying to make sense of their lives, they clearly see the misaligned behaviours in the adult circles around them, but (a) they don’t have the understanding to think about those behaviours in a way that makes sense, and (b) because no one talks about innate wisdom, they don’t look to that for validation and instead make up, and get locked into, all sorts of other stuff about themselves and their situation.

Adolescents experience innate wisdom about their contexts; they need space to voice what comes from it. Their wisdom or common sense needs to be validated, otherwise, we are ‘crazymaking’ them. Adolescents experience shifts in mood; the role of thought in that shift can be brought to awareness and adolescents can see they are not their state of mind. Adolescents know the thinking that sits under their anger, sadness and frustration; it often relates to power (or perceived lack of it). They need adults with an understanding of innate wisdom to help them to let those thoughts go and allow innate wisdom to mature their thinking and their way in the world.

We have a long way to go before the majority of humanity understands clearly the phenomenon of innate wisdom, but the change has started. Innate wisdom is active in everyone and can be heard in the words of many when talking about solutions to their lives. Unfortunately, with an absence of understanding about innate wisdom and the role of thought, we don’t think clearly about what is present and like the ancients, continue to get immersed in behaviours that don’t make sense. We need an understanding that allows us to think more clearly about what already exists. We need an understanding of innate wisdom and the role of thought so that our thinking about ourselves and each other aligns with innate wisdom instead of negating it. With a clear understanding, our innate mental health is worked with instead of fought against. With understanding, the ancients could stop lighting fires on the horizon to attract the sun. One day we too can stop engaging in crazy behaviours to attract mental health. We can all come home to truth.